| If you�re on this page there is only one reason | | | | day to write down each time you catch yourself |
| why you are here: burning curiosity about what it | | | | with a negative thought. You�ll be amazed at |
| takes to become a Fearless Woman. Do you | | | | how often in a day that happens. We need to |
| catch yourself telling the same old stories about | | | | start becoming more conscious so we can choose |
| why you can�t do something? There�s not | | | | the life we want wisely. We will still be run by the |
| enough money, not enough relationship, my health | | | | unconscious, but here�s the kicker, the more |
| isn�t good, I�m too old, too fat, too tired. I | | | | conscious you can become, the better life gets. |
| used to dream about a future that was better, | | | | We really can re-program our brains to filter out |
| but that was then, and this is reality. I can�t | | | | the negative, the rubbish, and put in the good |
| have it. I�m not capable, I�m not worthy, | | | | stuff. It�s a lot like having a cupboard full of old |
| I�m not good enough, I�m not qualified, | | | | food stuffs. The expiration date was months or |
| I�m not creative, I�m not, I�m not, | | | | years ago, and it�s taking up a lot of space. |
| I�m not. Is that the yadda yadda of your life? | | | | Our old stories are like that. They expired a long |
| If so, you�re not alone. 99.9% of us have that | | | | time ago. We need to throw them out and make |
| conversation almost daily. You want to know how | | | | room for new stuff to enter. When we choose |
| to eliminate the pain of bad choices that has been | | | | our stories we choose our life. So, I�m here to |
| plaguing your life, or you want to know how to | | | | challenge you. You�ve gone through at least 50 |
| make better choices. Oh, before I forget, � | | | | years of living and you�ve built up a solid library |
| There�s no such thing as being Fearless. There | | | | of stories that run your life. You can make all the |
| are only the decisions we all make to show up to | | | | excuses in the world for why you�re not |
| it. You see life is all about choices. I�ll give you | | | | doing, what you could be doing, what you |
| an example from my own life. I�ve been | | | | don�t do, what you can�t do, and what |
| married for 27 years and counting but it hasn�t | | | | you�d like to do if only�.. But I�m here to |
| always been easy. Several years ago I was ready | | | | tell you� There are No More Excuses� We |
| to divorce my husband. I blamed him for all kinds | | | | all make choices. If the choice you made is the |
| of things, and I blamed him for creating the life | | | | wrong one, then change it again. None of us have |
| we were living. It was all his fault. Until then, I�d | | | | to be locked into the place of Now And Forever. |
| always been good at blaming other people, | | | | If that were true, then life would certainly not be |
| blaming circumstances and blaming the past for | | | | worth living. I for one do not want to be the |
| the present predicament. I was ready to walk out | | | | lassie fae Leith whose mother was urged to put |
| on the marriage because I blamed him for | | | | me into the factory beside her so that I could |
| creating the limitations in our life. We were | | | | learn to put labels on whisky bottles. If I�d |
| constantly fighting about money, about where to | | | | done that I wouldn�t be here today, would I. |
| live, and how to live. I wanted one thing, he | | | | We have all made choices that were the wrong |
| wanted another. And then one day, in the midst | | | | ones. We�ve hurt ourselves, we�ve hurt |
| of a huge fight, he said something quite profound | | | | others, and we�ve limited the expression of |
| that I had not heard before. He said �You | | | | our true selves for many, many reasons. But |
| made the choice to be with me!� For some | | | | we�re reached an age where we should know |
| reason, that phrase slammed home. For the first | | | | that the choices we have are much more than |
| time in my life (and I was about 38 at the time) I | | | | we�ve allowed ourselves to experience. I want |
| truly understood that we all make choices about | | | | you to know that you have a choice to recreate, |
| where we want to be in life. I had made my | | | | to redo, to explore, have an adventure, move |
| choice to be with him and whatever unhappiness I | | | | beyond the suffocating and limiting places that |
| was experiencing, it was my choice. Choices are | | | | you feel locked into. We all have choices. Many of |
| what dominate whether we have a good life, a | | | | them are unconscious, but many of them are |
| bad life or an okay life. We make decisions that | | | | based on the reality of the moment. And if you |
| seem right for the moment, and frequently, there | | | | don�t like the reality, then change it. When |
| is an element of regret around the choices. We | | | | people say to me �But it�s ALWAYS been |
| wish we had thought about it more, had taken | | | | that way� I tell them there is no such thing as |
| more time to consider all the aspects, and had | | | | ALWAYS. There is only Until Today. Until today I |
| known what we know now. Did you ever hear | | | | have done it this way, but from this moment, I |
| the song No Regrets by Edith Piaf. She was | | | | can choose to do it differently. You can choose to |
| known as �Sparrow; because she was 4 feet | | | | do things differently. It�s your life. We give so |
| something, a national icon in France she captured | | | | much of our lives away to others, and the result |
| the hearts of millions of people all over the world | | | | is we usually feel used up. Women in particular |
| with her voice. Her life was a tragedy of bad | | | | suffer from this syndrome. I�m not saying that |
| marriages, bad decisions and eventually alcoholism | | | | we can�t be of service to others. That�s a |
| and morphine addiction that killed her. She made | | | | whole other issue. What I�m saying is we |
| the wrong choices. Did she have regrets? You bet | | | | can�t afford not to take care of ourselves. It |
| she did. So did Judy Garland and Billie Holiday. The | | | | is counter-productive to living a good life. We all |
| world stage is strewn with people who made bad | | | | want to live a good life, don�t we? I |
| choices that affected their lives. And there�s a | | | | haven�t heard a single person tell me they |
| simple reason for that. You see we build stories in | | | | didn�t want a good life. We all want better |
| our minds to lend credibility to our position. When | | | | relationships with our significant others, a better |
| you believe you�re no good, then you�ll | | | | job, more money, more free time, more |
| literally create the life around that. All of these | | | | vacations, a better body etc. It�s hard wired |
| women above inherently believed they were | | | | into us. So what stops us from getting there. Our |
| flawed. A teacher in school tells you you�re | | | | stories. The things we tell ourselves and allow |
| useless so many times you believe it, and years | | | | other people to tell us. Try this exercise. It will |
| later, when you�ve forgotten the teacher, | | | | scare the living daylights out of you to begin with |
| there�s a little part of your unconscious that | | | | , but do it anyway. Say out loud in front of |
| says you will never amount to much. So you go | | | | dozens of strangers that you�re a Magnificent |
| out of your way to create situations that allow | | | | Woman. Okay, so you can�t do that, then I |
| you to continue living that story. We are all full of | | | | want you to paste that phrase where you can |
| stories. Stories from our past, stories we tell | | | | see it every day. Use it as a screensaver. Remind |
| ourselves, stories that other people tell us, and | | | | yourself of that simple phrase and start to believe |
| the stories are the things that pull us down | | | | it is true. It�s true because you told yourself it |
| because we believe them. I�ll be you can give | | | | was. You�re creating a new story. You�re |
| me an example of negative stories you heard | | | | changing the language of how you speak to |
| about yourself in the past that you believe to be | | | | yourself and you�re making choices that are |
| true. So how do you change the stories? Well, | | | | good for you. Don�t let other people decide |
| it�s easy. You start changing the stories by | | | | who you are. Decide for yourself. You�re a |
| telling yourself that they are stories. We all believe | | | | Fearless woman in midlife. What�s in the past is |
| in a happy ending, don�t we? Right! Stories are | | | | gone, what�s here today is the beginning of |
| language pictures. When we change the language | | | | the rest of your life. It�s a clich�, I know, |
| we change the picture. Can you �see� how | | | | but it�s a very true saying. You have the rest |
| that would be? Change the language and you | | | | of your life to create the life you want. We can |
| change the picture. The way we think about | | | | expect to live another thirty to forty plus years |
| ourselves is critical to becoming a Fearless | | | | beyond this point. Do we really want to continue |
| Woman. We make choices based on how we | | | | making excuses for why we are not living the life |
| perceive ourselves. It took me a long time to | | | | we want? You can create the life you want. The |
| figure this out, but when I did, it was so simple. If | | | | power is in your decisions. And if you can�t |
| I tell myself I�m a Magnificent Woman, I | | | | decide for yourself, get some help. We all try to |
| become one. But I have to tell myself a few | | | | white knuckle our way through life when all we |
| hundred times before the brain starts to get that | | | | have to do is look around you and reach out to |
| the message has changed. I don�t need other | | | | the people who want to help. Getting support is |
| people to confirm it. I say it enough times and I | | | | one of the greatest things you can do for |
| begin to believe my own story. We place too | | | | yourself. I wouldn�t be here today if I didn�t |
| much emphasis on what other people think. We | | | | have a long list of people who had mentored me, |
| are concerned about how others perceive us, but | | | | supported me, nurtured me and encouraged me |
| here�s the stupid part of this. We can�t see | | | | to be bold and live life on my own terms. I�m |
| ourselves clearly at all. We�ve created too | | | | not saying it�s easy. But what I will tell you is |
| many stories around who we are and what | | | | this. There is nothing, and I mean nothing, better |
| we�re capable of, and what we give to the | | | | than feeling like you get out of bed in the morning |
| world, to be able to see it clearly. Start observing | | | | and you�re excited about what the day holds, |
| how you think about yourself. When you catch | | | | knowing you are doing exactly what you want |
| yourself thinking something in the negative, write | | | | for yourself. There are NO MORE |
| it down. For the next week, I want you every | | | | EXCUSES��. |